So sis, we have to talk about it… INSECURITIES!

All right, so I wanted to come up with three things so that we can remember. There are more things of course that can make us insecure but these three main things are ones that we can really work on practically. You can have your accountability group come alongside you and like really… sit with this, because this is going to really help you move forward in EVERYTHING!

Alright, so let's get into number one. One of the main reasons that we are insecure is because we are IMPATIENT! And, let me take a step back. I had to look up what insecurity meant, and clearly just to simplify and summarize it, it is the lack of confidence or to not be secured in something. Now let's get back into it. Impatient means to be “restless in desire or expectation”. Alright, think about it sis… when you're impatient you begin to negotiate parts of yourself. You start to just think about all kind of stuff and act impulsively, which another “I” can be- impulsive. But, that means we start to get swayed by different emotional things or we involuntarily have these sudden feelings, and then we start to act on them. So, you really have to think about that.

I want to come up with a practical activity that you can do. Write this down, sis and sit with it. Literally do this process. I'm going to describe the process to you and also give you this editable free worksheet that you can do. Write it out. Print as many of them as you need to. But, do this process!

1. Take inventory of your thoughts! Think about what you think about. Write down what you think about. Write down what you think about yourself. Write down just any thoughts that come into your mind. REMEMBER - Don’t judge yourself, just think and write down the thoughts. This may be awkward or challenging at first, but keep at it. It could be as a simple as.. I’m distracted right now when quieting my space." You see how I shifted that and didn't say- Girl, why cant you focus? OR Girl you do not know how to focus. It could be as deep as “I feel insecure, because I don’t know if I can trust God to give me what I want, and I want what I want now.” You see that, too? I didn’t say, “Why can’t I trust God?”

2. Pray about it! We have to pray about this stuff. One o the biggest things we need to grasp is that God already knows our thoughts. He knew them before we were even gonna think it. So, we need to pray about it and BE HONEST.. I’m learning it is absolutely ok and very important to give my all and give all of me to God.

3. Trace where you got those thoughts from! I call this the Thought Map. There can be something that someone said from way back in the day that you hold as a truth about yourself. Whether it was their opinion, or even accurate at the time.. YOU HAVE EVOLVED, sis! But, let’s not focus on that right now.. let’s just get it out by writing it down. It can be something that happened to you, and you have perceived something about yourself from that event. Now, let me pause briefly and offer some encouragement- YOUR FEELINGS ARE REAL, but they are not your reality. You have overcome so much more on your journey beyond that. Honor those feelings and TAKE THEM to GOD and seek Counseling. Sorry, not sorry.. I’m a both/and girl! But we need to think about that and see it's making us a little restless. It's not letting us feel settled; therefore, we're not secure. We're not confident. Meaning- we’re insecure. But, thankfully we are on the journey to shifting that.

4. Pray about it all and repeat the process !